What is the first thing that comes to your mind when you are asked what makes you the happiest person? Books, a video game, sleep, chocolates, flowers… The list goes on and on. But these are the material things that make a person happy. Have you ever found yourself reminiscing the old times with a loved one and smile when you think about something they did just to let you know that they care, in a totally non-obvious way?
Now, if someone asked me what makes me happy, I must say it is when people remember the smallest, most unimportant details about me from some conversation that we might have had aeons ago. It might not seem like much, but it’s the sweetest way to tell someone that you care, that you paid attention to what they said.
Bringing your loved one a book by their favourite writer, just telling them how much you love them- without having a reason to say so, bringing them a steaming bowl of soup when they’re sick, being there for them when they need you the most; these are the kind of things that matter.
“The small things of life were often so much bigger than the great things . . . the trivial pleasure like cooking, one’s home, little poems especially sad ones, solitary walks, funny things seen and overheard.”
― Barbara Pym
When you look back, it is these things that you’ll remember. You might not remember the first bicycle your Dad bought you, but you’ll remember all the fun you had when you were learning how to ride the bicycle. It is all the fun and the happiness that is etched into the memory of a person and not the material aspect of the memory itself.
You are not going to remember all those expensive gifts, they will lose value over time. But other things such as handmade cards, handwritten letters, photographs, silly little notes and the sketches you made as a child? These are the things you are going to remember for a lifetime. These are the things you will cherish inside your safe- and not that expensive Chanel handbag you got as a gift!
We are often so lost counting our material blessings that we overlook the real blessings in our life.
“People, we’re always reaching for these big things… you know? Big ideas… big moments… big lives. And all the while the little things we’re ignoring are undoing us.”
― Joshua Dysart,
Try to look for happiness in the little moments of your life. Pause to look at the flower growing on the sidewalk, dance in the rain, surprise your beloved with an impromptu road trip. It doesn’t even have to be a road trip. It can be something as simple as a walk by the sea shore or a dinner. It doesn’t even have to be a dinner. Even the simplest things like leaving a note under the pillow can brighten up somebody’s day.
If you think about it, all the happiest memories in your life are simple ones. Running around in the park with your parents chasing after you, walks with your loved ones, the first time either one of you said ‘I love you,‘ the fun you had with your friends during your school years. They are in no way related to money.
“I look around the room and can’t help but think about how it is the little things we look back on in life. I wonder how often people think that they should pay more attention to them.”
― Erika Lance,
Remember that when you expect something to work out, you need to stop expecting really big, sweeping gestures. Start looking at the smaller things. Sometimes, these small things have much deeper meaning to them. These small things add up to one big gesture. Remember the good ol’ saying- ‘Every drop in the ocean counts‘? Yeah, that applies here as well.
Just remember- Every little thing counts.
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