It’s Okay To Let Go.

Let me ask you something. If you had to choose between holding on to a rope that’s hurting you, and letting it go even though you’ll lose what is at the end of the rope, what would you choose? Would you still hold on to the rope burning your hands? Even if you do hold on, how long before your hands are so burnt and wounded that you are left with no option but to let go? Or would you gladly let your hands get burnt by the ropes?

This question might sound ridiculous if you didn’t get the metaphor. It’s pretty simple, actually. We often hold on to things (read: people) that hurt us a lot, but only because we are afraid to lose them. We don’t want to feel the pain of losing something so precious. Ironically, we are only hurting ourselves more by holding on to them, which is just as bad. Either way, we get hurt. So which one do you think is the better option- the one where you hold no matter how much you get hurt or the one where you let go, hurting yourself in the process and slowly but effectively heal? This is where I tell you that letting go of something that hurts you (especially if it hurts you) is perfectly alright; it doesn’t make you the bad guy.

“Letting go doesn’t mean that you don’t care about someone anymore. It’s just realizing that the only person you really have control over is yourself.”
― Deborah Reber, Chicken Soup for the Teenage Soul

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Letting go is good for us. It helps us heal and move forward with our lives. Unless we learn to let go of whatever is holding us down, we can never go ahead.We also become more understanding about the situation; we become more accepting. To let go, we need to first understand and then forgive the situation; know that the situation is over. Brooding over it and crying over the way you wish things could have been will only deepen your already healing wounds. Understand that while whatever you may have lost was the best according to you, there is something better out there. Sure, you may not find it right away; but you will. These kind of things take their own time to happen; when they do happen, it’ll all finally make sense. Just give it some time.

Another important part of letting go is not hating, because when we hate someone/ something, it makes an impact on our heart. It is engraved in our mind. Hate is a very powerful feeling. It is destructive and impairs our judgement. So it is always better to forget them instead of spending our mental energy on hating them. We tend to think about the people we hate- which is the exact opposite of letting go. Learn to forgive and forget (or maybe just forget).

“Cry. Forgive. Learn. Move on. Let your tears water the seeds of your future happiness.”
― Steve Maraboli

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Sometimes, we are afraid to let go of things because we want to hold on to the memories associated with them. We are afraid to step out of our comfort zones because we are afraid of the change it will bring. We should lose that fear. Maybe it’s what is holding us back from getting the better things in life. Incredible things start happening in our lives when we finally start taking control of the things we have power over, instead of craving for the things we have no power over at all. If we can’t control something, we shouldn’t stress over it. Let it go, flow with the river for a while before you can start pushing your way upstream again. Release the stress.

Understand this- yesterday is gone. There is nothing you can do to bring it back. There is no use brooding over it. We can’t “should’ve” done something anymore. What is gone, is gone. Let go of yesterday, no good is going to come out of it if we keep holding on! What we do have is today, the only day we can do something about. Release that attachment you have to yesterday and embrace today. Today is a new day. Today is the one you should be working on. Renew yourself every day and let go of yesterday.

“The beautiful journey of today can only begin when we learn to let go of yesterday.”
― Steve Maraboli, Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience.

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We must know that there are times when we must not let go, too. There are things that can be solved. Not everything has to be set free. There are things we must hold on to. Even if we do decide to let go, we should learn to start over. We must be smart enough when to let go and when to hold on. Some things are meant to go, while some are not. It’s all about out what is important in life. So, we shouldn’t beat ourselves up over something that we let go of, something that we had no control, no power over.

So, the next time you’re in a fix, thinking about letting go- release the stress. What can’t be controlled just can’t be; there are so many more things that you can control. Take charge of those kind of situations. Letting go of the smaller things in life will get you bigger things. You can’t hold on to something that wants you to go, so just let things go. Whether you want to let go is your choice, it is in your hands- it’s something you can control. Think wisely before you let go.

“There are times in life when people must know when not to let go. Balloons are designed to teach small children this.”
― Terry Pratchett

So if  you could relate to this article, and know someone who would, comment below and share to spread the love!

Cheerio! Xx

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  1. Your wording comes as if you are actually a therapist perhaps by trade. Really, wouldn’t matter of you flipped burgers or drove a cab for a living. Your words sting my heart with a brutal reality that is almost soul cleansing with dash of positivity sprinkled in so the truth of that reality only stings enough to arouse self awareness. Currently in the proccess of using my own awareness to convince my stubborn heart to let go of the one thing I wanted more than anyone. It was a person. A feeling of longing I could never begin to describe with words. I don’t think I have ever been so conflicted between my thoughts and my feelings. There is no explanation to my knowledge or that I am aware of that explains why our hearts can crave something or someone so badly that it can cause your chest to feel as if there is an actual weight pressing down on your soul and simultaneously our mind knows what is best and yet the heart just ignores plain common sense. As if a heart has no reason or logic to feel a draw towards something one day right to the second it turns on like the flip of a switch and instantly is filled with a desire that is overwhelming, stubborn and relentless in it’s pursuit. Abandoning all logical self preservation even as that thing or person intentional or not is poisoning the very heart that refuses to let go. Amidst this illogical heart generated addiction is the brain screaming inside our own inner monologue spouting truths of your own personal emotional guide to freedom and self liberation from the very thing that is killing us slowly inside with the pain the our thoughts deny as anything other than dismissable.

    I’ve learned over this past year this for me is the hardest of life’s internal conflicts and yet I still know better. I have lost so many so young that now as I approach being middle aged the few souls I take a gamble on and open up to feel as if they are almost impossible fory heart to let go of and forget despite my brain doing it’s best Professor X thought control. I know better yet my heart refuses to listen..Just wish there was an instructional manual with step by step moves to make with a gautanteed end result. As a man I believe that would be the one set of instructions I couldn’t possibly disregard and just figure it out on my own. However we all know this life in and of itself is a giant question mark. Starts at infancy when we know the names of nothing but we know we want something (juice,milk,blanket, stuffed toy etc) and as I have learned recently that question mark factor will always with be with us as walk out path. Either way for my soul this blog is my fav. So much of what you write speaks directly to so many things I have had weighted on my heart and as stupid as some people say blogging or putting your thoughts out to strangers is, to some of us it can be a reminder that we are not the only ones who wrestle internally with these thoughts and feelings and perceptions. Dear stranger, you are appreciated. I very much look forward reading and following your words.

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    1. I’m just a 19 year old student, trying to find herself in this world; I’m no therapist. Also, I had no idea I could influence someone in such a way. I’m glad you like my blog posts. Thanks for your wonderful words. I’ll definitely continue to write. Keep reading. Huge hugs, xoxo

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